14 Days Until Christmas!

Deck The Halls Ladies! Its Christmas time! Okay, so you definitely already knew that. Its one of my favorite times a year where you get to spend time with loved ones and eat some good food. Its been a rocky December with some troubles coming out of nowhere with  my day job. But, everything happens for a reason and I’m moving upwards and on wards!

Brad and I are still going strong and I’m so thankful for all his support! He’s been an absolute sweety. I even dragged him to the Christmas Market. Don’t we all just love making our Boyfriend’s do things they don’t wanna do. lol. Needless to say he didn’t enjoy it quite as much as I did!  In his defense, it is quite cold for outside activities. I mean my face was numb, I have no idea why its so cold….. oh yeah, its winter.

During this time, I guess the big question is what to get your new BF for Christmas. Do you know exactly what to get someone after 6 months of dating? Well I don’t know the answer to that question. I bought a couple of gifts, if he likes them I’ll let you know. I think he will. As we spend so much time together that its hard to miss what someone likes in general.

I’ll offer some gift ideas ladies, I’ll be Mrs. Claus for a quick minute.

  1. Motorcycle Jacket (Not a motorcycle, because those are dangerous)
  2. A Video Game (If he’s into that sort of thing, buy one you’ll enjoy as well as you’ll be watching him play it a lot)
  3. A Google Home (Everyone’s got one now a days)
  4. Puppies! (This is a shared gift!)
  5. Winter Attire (Scarf, Gloves or Warm Hugs)
  6. Anything Star Wars (Robots of R2D2 are in Best Buy, I kid you not!)
  7. A handmade coupon book for hugs and kisses (lets face it girl! You are the best gift he could ever hope for)

That’s all I got folks! I’ll let you know how it goes when Brad finally meets all my family members at Christmas dinner. I expect to have some fun stories to report back to you!

Golden Rule: Go to the Christmas market with your BF, its fun and festive.

Tips For Guys: Take her to the Christmas market man, she really wants to go. Just bundle up!

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Six Months In Our Love Bubble

Hi Ladies! I’ve been Brad’s girl for six whole months. That’s long for me lol. I’m pretty excited about it and I’m quite happy in my relationship which is no small matter. We celebrated by going out for dinner and me being the romantic I am, stole an idea from pinterest. So I know he likes Toblerone Chocolates (because I had some in my room and he ate half the box lol), so I put a bunch in a mason jar with a sweet note and a bow on top. OMG guys, it was so cute! I’m super impressed with myself. (pats self on back) I know he liked it or at least he certainly liked the Toblerones.

I’m happy to say I’ve grown in this relationship into a more secure me. I am happy that nothing has changed since the beginning of the relationship other than the fact that we are slowly morphing into the same person. We definitely have a deeper connection now but its still as fun as the beginning. Are we still in the honeymoon phase? Maybe?!

I also just wanted to add how incredible our sex has been. I think the longer we are together the more we know each other’s desires. We definitely know what we both like and maximize on those things. All I can say is “WOW!”. I find him sexier than ever now and is still pretty enamored with him.

Alright I’ll stop gushing! I just wanted to let ya’ll know we are six months deep lol.

P.S. Super excited for Christmas!

Golden Rule: When you are in love, time flies fast! Enjoy every moment of it.

Tips for Guys: Be the guy that a girl can fall in love with. It’s worth it!

 

Don`t F*** this Up!

Hi Ladies,

Can I be Frank with you guys? I’m in love, for the first time in a long time and can I just say it feels great. I feel like Mary Poppins floating off with her Umbrella. I feel like Cady Heron when she finally got with Aaron Samuels at the end of mean girls. You get it right? I’m Rose  pre-Jack floating off into the ocean. Anyway, yeah you get it.

So the problem I’m having is seriously trying not to mess this up lol. I want to show him all of me, including my crazy and my anxiety. But is it too much? Well if you’ve been a reader of my blog for the past two years, you know that I really value my relationships and that I’m a sweety. An anxious ovethinking sweety but a sweety non the less.

I’m constantly trying to improve me and work out my kinks on my own. I know I’m not perfect and like all girls, we have our flaws. We have things that will annoy the crap out of our significant others and that’s just the way it is. I am however trying to make myself the best girl I can be. I’m always trying to improve on who I am at work, within my family relationships and even just as a human on earth. But especially in my personal relationship, I try to be the best girlfriend all the time.

I’m dating a very confident and secure person. So I’m always trying to be the same except my anxiety gets in the way lol. I guess I have to figure out that I’m allowed to be vulnerable with him and I need to work on being comfortable with it. I also want him to be comfortable being vulnerable with me.

What can I say? I’m still a work in progress. I still have a lot to learn about love and about really sharing myself with another.

Golden Rule: Don’t F*** up a great relationship and work on being okay with your vulnerability.

Tips For Guys: Don’t F*** up a great relationship!

Girl Angst

Hi Ladies! How goes it? How was Halloween?! I had a pretty good Halloween, I spent it with Brad. We set up his house all spooky and giggled at the disdain on toddlers faces when they figured out they’d have to brave our ghoulish setup in order to receive their candy. Some of the faces were just priceless. We even had an over-enthusiastic toddler yell PUMPKIN!! Like really loud at one of our pumpkins. It was hilarious! We ordered pizza and watched the office, it was a pretty near perfect night.

So we are 5 months into our relationship and like many women at this point, I’m feeling some angst. I call it girl angst or “gangst” for short lol. At this point, Brad knows me inside and out. He knows I’m a whiner, he knows I mildly snore when I sleep (emphasis on MILDLY), he knows I get really cranky when I don’t eat and he knows I’m a cuddle bug. Does he like these things? I hope so! It’s at the point when he pretty much knows all there is to know about me and now I start to wonder if he likes any of it. Am I the only one who thinks about this?

I mean at this point, I know quite a lot about him as well. I know most of his habits and vices. I think they are all cute or at least manageable lol. There hasn’t been anything that I would run to the hills for. But as a girl, I am still enamored by him and is still interested to know more. As I am not a guy….. I don’t know what they are thinking. I mean I could always just ask, but where’s the fun in that? lol. Just kidding, I do try to be very open with Brad about what I’m feeling and he is very keen on reciprocating or help me deal with it.

Most likely its nothing and they are just following the natural ebs and flows of our relationship. But what do I do? I overthink and write blogs about my angst! Most of the time to be completely honest, I don’t know where all this angst comes from. All I know is it sucks and I hate overthinking.

In the end, I have to remember that I can’t control anything having to do with matters of the heart and that everything happens for a reason. Wherever this relationship takes me, I’m thankful.

Please listen to Ariana Grande’s song “Thank You, Next”. It’s pretty darn good and is pretty relatable to like every girl out there.

Also, check out our pumpkin creations below. I carved a goofy pumpkin and Brad carved a poop emoji. LOL PUMPKIN!!

Golden Rule: Try to chill out, keep the angst at bay.

Tips For Guys: Girls have angst, don’t worry we try to keep it to ourselves for the most part.

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Hardest Lessons Learned

Hi Ladies, I’m just going to go on a little “why being an adult is hard” rant. Honestly the hardest lessons learned is just how much people suck…. am I right?

I don’t even think I hold people to that high of a standard. I give everyone their space, I am not a very constrictive person. Plans change and I’m cool. You want to cancel plans once or twice and I’m still cool. You don’t talk to me for 2 weeks, no big deal. We can still be Dion and Cher after those things occur. (Clueless Reference, if you haven’t seen that movie, GO watch it!)

But the minute a person’s actions show that they blatantly don’t give a shit about me as a person, that’s when I feel let down. This is especially hard when it’s a person that you’d pride yourself on going out of your way to support and help. Am I the only adult who still expects to have friends in their late 20’s? I just might be.  Let me know how your friendships are going below.

Being an Adult is hard because people forget that after doing a shitty thing to one person or persons, they can still say sorry.

In other news, Brad and I are doing great! We had our first Halloween Party outing and was the cutest Clarke Kent and Lois Lane for miles around. Atleast I thought soooo!

Golden Rule: Try to treat your friends a little better, especially now that you are a busy adult. Showing that you can still make time for them is important.

Tips For Guys:  Girls like couples costumes, so please oblige us! lol.

 

 

 

 

Our First Vacation

Hi Ladies!

Its actually been a while and of course I have to get you caught up on what’s happening. Where have I been… you may ask. Why I was away with my BF. We went on a little getaway to Montreal and Ottawa. Those are Canadian cities for all my international readers. They were lovely cities and we had so much fun. We also spent ALOT of money, but that’s for a whole other blog lol.

Our first stop was Montreal where we stayed for 4 days 3 nights. The most amazing thing about that city is the food. Really good food….. and we all know, that’s pretty much all it takes to make a good vacation. We went site seeing and did basic touristy stuff but of course doing all that stuff with Brad was super fun. Sure we got lost sometimes, frustrated and mad but we never really got mad at each other which was great. We just like sarcasm’d each other to death.

After Montreal we hit up Ottawa, Canada’s capital. I was hoping to get a glance of our prime minister but we just got a glance of his house instead or where his house should be. Can we say “Privacy Trees”. We barely saw anything. Anyway in this fair city we explored Parliament Hill and went for long walk along rivers and such. We ate at one of the fanciest restaurants I have ever been to in my  whole middle classed life. I wanted to eat everything on the menu but sadly couldn’t afford it. We spent 3 days in Ottawa and polished off our trip by going to a Cold War Bunker 30 minutes outside of Ottawa. It was very cool but also quite chilling.

Did I mention that we drove the whole way. Yup! Around 5 hours each way. Can you believe we didn’t kill each other?! We still care about each other and I’m happier now than ever that I met him. What a guy! lol. Alright I’m done gushing. Below I’ve attached a picture of our Parliament building, just so you can also experience the beauty and wonder that is Ottawa.

Golden Rule: Take a trip with Bae, you’ll learn things about each other.

Tips For Guys: Have a lot of Vacation sex with your girl. She’ll appreciate it when she gets back to her boring mundane life. lol

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Dinner and Dessert (Yes I’m Talking About Sex)

Hi Ladies,

As you know, I have been seeing my lover Brad Paisley for some time now. No not the real Brad Paisley (See Brad’s Back to catch up) but my BF that loves Brad Paisley. So I know that I have been pretty vague in regards to our sex life and that’s because I feel like I have definitely said too much in past blogs about past relationships. But I do want to express that he does connect with me and not just on an intellectual level.

With him, sex is different. I think in the past most of my relationships were focused on just sex or like at least 80% sex and that’s just because that was all my past guys had to offer. For the first time I’m experiencing sex with a partner that also cares about me as a person and respects me. Someone I’m just more that boobies and a booty to (though I’m sure he appreciates them).

It’s pretty refreshing. I finally get it all, I get dinner and dessert. I get passionate love making and then Netflix after. I get sex on the couch and cookies right after we have dinner.  I get hot make out sessions in the car and he feeds me M & M’s when we go to the movies! He even makes me tea ya’ll. Yes Tea! Is him making me tea better than sex? Umm yes! Just Kidding……definitely not!

He also met my mother, I repeat… he met the momster. She was pleasantly surprised at his height even though I fully told her he was a tall guy. She made spaghetti and meat balls and we sat casually in my living room and had dinner. We watched “Two Guns” with Denzel and Marky Mark. My mom and Brad gushed about their mutual love for Denzel! Who doesn’t love Denzel Washington right? They got on quite well. I on the other hand was a nervous wreck. I became a cross between a robot and a waiter. Brad had to quickly call me out on my weirdness and then I chilled. lol

He did drop one sauced up  spaghetti noodle on my mom’s white couch though, so he wasn’t perfect but he was pretty darn close. To which my mom responded with an “That’s Okay”. If I was the one who did that, I’m pretty sure I would have ended having to buy her a new couch but whatever.

He was being the perfect guy in front of my mom and she ate that shit up. She currently adores him and who am I kidding….. so do I.

Being in a relationship is surprisingly easy when your cute ass BF meets your mom for the first time, I thought it was going to be harder.

Golden Rule: Bring your guy over to meet your mom, if she likes him then you know you are in the clear.

Tips for Guys: Don’t drop spaghetti on a white couch, just don’t.

 

 

Happiness & Havana Nights

Hi Ladies, I’m just returning from a 5 day long hiatus from  my life. Where did I go? I went to Cuba and it was beautiful. I will leave you with a stunning photo of  a bridge in the town of Mantanzas below. It was hot, the beach was stunning and the drinks were great. The food however, was not spectacular. I was basically on a 5 day long diet because the resort’s assortment of food wasn’t the best. When I traveled to Havana however, I did have the tastiest meal of the trip which consisted of Chicken, rice and beans. So simple but so delicious.

While I was there, my mother and I encountered a girl whom was having domestic violence issues with her BF that she brought on vacation with her. This poor girl literally spent an entire day drinking because of a physical altercation that she had with him the night before. She told anyone that would listen her story of domestic violence and sadness while being thoroughly intoxicated. For a whole night I was on edge and trying to help this girl. I realized I couldn’t help her when I asked her to tell the front desk the situation to see if she could maybe switch rooms or something; to which her response was “I hate him and I love him.” That’s basically when I gave up on her. Long story short she was fine and continued her trip with this guy for a whole 2 days after and even sat behind me on the plane ride back. I felt sick to my stomach to watch her go around with this guy knowing what he  had done to her and was possibly going to do to her again in the near future.

Her whole ordeal just made me realize that women must focus on their own happiness as well as their partners. In relationships, I find that I genuinely strive to make my partner happy because them being fulfilled makes me fulfilled. Nothing is better than seeing the person I care about happy especially Brad because I think he’s pretty awesome. This may be interpreted as being a people pleaser or somewhat annoying but its just the way I am in a relationship. This is fully who I am and i’m being open and honest about it? Should I change this aspect of me? Do nice girls who are devoted and value their partner’s happiness finish last? Give me some feedback below.

Brad did not come on my vacation with me and I missed him terribly while I was away. When I came back we spent a couple days together. Me trying not to think about returning to work and trying to stay in vacation mode as long as possible. Being away has made me want to do somethings differently in my life.

I want to focus on my goals and things that I want to achieve.

I want to form disciplinary habits and regulate my life more. Life is so short and I’m not exactly a kid anymore. There are things that I had hoped to achieve by now, that I still haven’t. I know I can achieve them if I focus on them. Being in Cuba; witnessing the poverty and the strife of the people there has made me appreciate my freedoms a lot more.

Golden Rule: Focus on you sometimes, try to achieve some goals and revel in the feeling of fulfillment.

Tips For Guys: Try to make your girl happy because most likely your happiness is what she is focused on.

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My BF Is A Celebrity

Hi Ladies! I won something last week! What did I win? No it wasn’t the lottery, even though I wish! I won wristbands to the MMVA’s which is like the Canadian version of the VMA’s and it was awesome. I saw Artists like Halsey, Bebe Rexha, Meghan Trainor and Shawn Mendes. Who was the most talked about person on my Snap Chat? No, its wan’t Shawn Mendes…… it was my boyfriend lol.

I snapped a pic of me and Brad at the awards and he was pretty much all anyone asked me about. He was pretty much a celebrity that night. So he definitely stole the show. How are we doing? I would say pretty good. I still find him adorable, sexy and sweet….the trifecta. Its been 3 months since we started talking and it literally flew by. I feel like it was only yesterday that we had like just met and went on our first date but at the same time I’m so use to this person being in my life, it feels like he was always there.

Yeah, its been pretty good. When we are together we just laugh a lot.  We haven’t had any like arguments yet or anything. I guess we are still in our honey moon phase? I basically want to spend a significant amount of time with him but then I realize that I need to chill and let him have his space sometimes.

I’m really glad I met him and hope this awesomness continues. I deserve to be happy and so does he. If it’s meant to be, it’ll be. (BTW Brett Kissel, a country music star was at the show and Brad really enjoyed that performance…. no surprise there lol)

Golden Rule: Enter more contests… you just might win!

Tips For Guys: Try to be adorable, sexy and sweet…… it’s working for  Brad.

 

Warcraft Vs. Girlfriend

So Brad loves Warcraft. Is this a problem? Like I don’t think it is. I mean I really wish Warcraft was a person that I could reason with and try to equally share Brad. Let’s just say this week Warcraft has been winning. How do I even fight with a game that has Elves and Trolls?! Like I wish I was into it, so that I could be entranced in the magical battle land as well.

So what do girlfriends do when they’re boyfriends play Warcraft? The answer is watch and pout or don’t watch but still pout.

I’m gonna have to get a hobby or something………..oh right I’m a blogger lol.

Golden Rule: Fighting against Warcraft is a fight you will lose.

Tips For Guys: You’re probably all playing Warcraft right now, aren’t you?