Happiness & Havana Nights

Hi Ladies, I’m just returning from a 5 day long hiatus from  my life. Where did I go? I went to Cuba and it was beautiful. I will leave you with a stunning photo of  a bridge in the town of Mantanzas below. It was hot, the beach was stunning and the drinks were great. The food however, was not spectacular. I was basically on a 5 day long diet because the resort’s assortment of food wasn’t the best. When I traveled to Havana however, I did have the tastiest meal of the trip which consisted of Chicken, rice and beans. So simple but so delicious.

While I was there, my mother and I encountered a girl whom was having domestic violence issues with her BF that she brought on vacation with her. This poor girl literally spent an entire day drinking because of a physical altercation that she had with him the night before. She told anyone that would listen her story of domestic violence and sadness while being thoroughly intoxicated. For a whole night I was on edge and trying to help this girl. I realized I couldn’t help her when I asked her to tell the front desk the situation to see if she could maybe switch rooms or something; to which her response was “I hate him and I love him.” That’s basically when I gave up on her. Long story short she was fine and continued her trip with this guy for a whole 2 days after and even sat behind me on the plane ride back. I felt sick to my stomach to watch her go around with this guy knowing what he  had done to her and was possibly going to do to her again in the near future.

Her whole ordeal just made me realize that women must focus on their own happiness as well as their partners. In relationships, I find that I genuinely strive to make my partner happy because them being fulfilled makes me fulfilled. Nothing is better than seeing the person I care about happy especially Brad because I think he’s pretty awesome. This may be interpreted as being a people pleaser or somewhat annoying but its just the way I am in a relationship. This is fully who I am and i’m being open and honest about it? Should I change this aspect of me? Do nice girls who are devoted and value their partner’s happiness finish last? Give me some feedback below.

Brad did not come on my vacation with me and I missed him terribly while I was away. When I came back we spent a couple days together. Me trying not to think about returning to work and trying to stay in vacation mode as long as possible. Being away has made me want to do somethings differently in my life.

I want to focus on my goals and things that I want to achieve.

I want to form disciplinary habits and regulate my life more. Life is so short and I’m not exactly a kid anymore. There are things that I had hoped to achieve by now, that I still haven’t. I know I can achieve them if I focus on them. Being in Cuba; witnessing the poverty and the strife of the people there has made me appreciate my freedoms a lot more.

Golden Rule: Focus on you sometimes, try to achieve some goals and revel in the feeling of fulfillment.

Tips For Guys: Try to make your girl happy because most likely your happiness is what she is focused on.

Mantanzas

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Brad’s Girl

Ladies! Its official, I’m Brad’s girlfriend. How did this happen? Well a long long time ago in a galaxy far far away…. no just kidding. I basically did the ” Sooooooo, its been two months, like what are we?” thing. To which he responded “You wanna be my girlfriend?” lol. I know very anti-climatic but he knew what I was getting at. He’s very intuitive that way. When most guys hear a giant “Soooooo” they usually run for the hills but not Brad. Though he usually responds first with an “Oh God”.

So yeah, what does being his girlfriend mean? It means I worry less about other women buzzing around him. (and trust me there are a few buzzers) Umm other than that nothing has really changed. We still hang out and have fun. Its awesome getting to know him because I think everything he does is either hilarious or adorable. Yes I’m still in my honeymoon phase. I’m sure he thinks I’m annoying by now because lets face it, I am.

We went to a drive in movie which you guys know from “My Top 5 Date Ideas” (Go read that post) is one of my favorites. It was super cool but there were also a lot of mosquitoes. Other than that a magical night under the stars. We made  like a little bed in his trunk. I super wanted to jump his bones but he just really wanted to watch the movie. I mean what kind of guys does that? lol.  A guy that really likes Mission Impossible, that’s who. Also my boyfriend. Yeah I’ll be saying that a lot now.

Side Note: Is Tom Cruise aging slower than the rest of us? Does Scientology have a magical fountain of youth type potion? Or is that potion actually just called money? Just some food for thought.

Anyway back to my boyfriend and I. Okay I’ll stop. Yeah we had a bumpy start but things are going pretty smoothly. Not hoping for anymore curve balls but what is life sans curve balls right?

For the first time ever I find being in a relationship is easy. Am I going to have to change the name of my blog? We’ll seeee.

Side Side Note: Beyonce and Jay Z are calling themselves The Carters now. Just thought I’d share.

Golden Rule: Date an intuitive guy if you can, it makes your “Sooooo” questions way easier.

Tips for Guys: Be Intuitive and take your girl to the drive in duh!

Whimsical Cottage Getaway

Hello Ladies!

What have I been up to you may ask? I’m just chillen and working, having fun with cutie pie Brad. So Brad Paisley’s family owns a cottage, no shocker there. He is Brad Paisley after all. This past weekend he thought it would be a good idea for us to take a little trip. It’s only two hours away but it’s good to know that I can be in a car with him for two hours. We literally just listened to music and talked and laughed. Not a bad travelling partner.

His cottage was beautiful and I had a bunch of new experiences. I rode an ATV. Not to worry Brad was at the helm. I just prayed for my life and held on tight. I drove a boat for the first time as well. I quickly realized how fun cottage life is and is hastily looking into my own cottage lol. You know once this blog takes off and I start making tons of money lol. For now my cottage dream is on hold.

Anyway, I thought it was super sweet of him to invite me up there and boy did I sure have fun. I was also ingesting at a steady pace some very delicious wine. That definitely helped me to relax and unwind. It’s was a whimsical trip.

Golden Rule: If your guy ever invites you on a cottage getaway, please do it!

Tips for Guys: Buy a cottage.

Flowers and Pizza

Hi Ladies! You might be wondering how things are going this summer. Brad and I are having fun! We hang out, we do things, he makes me laugh. He bought me Flowers! Yes I repeat Flowers! First guy to do that since the inception of this blog. He also orders Pizza for the both of us, from the like the best pizza place on earth. We all know how much I love Pizza! I mean if this doesn’t work out, me and that pizza are just gonna elope.

So I just do have to mention that we have had sex. How’s the sex you might ask? Its intense. I find him super attractive + he’s super sweet + the sex is good. I’m screwed. He can pick me up which we tested just this past weekend. He enjoys foreplay! And he’s a very generous lover. I mean, how did I get myself into this?

So Brad is currently being awesome but as we all know, I have to play this cool. Some parts of me are obviously scared shitless that he could just decide not to be with me at any moment. Which sucks! But then I just remember that I’m a pretty cool girl, I’ll be okay if it doesn’t work out. Like I know that we can’t control these things so lets seeeeee.

It also sucks that I’m so transparent and really can’t hide my feelings. Gosh being a girl is ridiculous! I mean he buys me flowers and pizza! Blame me for liking him? Not to mention he knows I’m a dork and doesn’t tease me about it lol.

He also works with all these girls at his job who text him for work advice and life advice. I mean its not that I’m a jealous person but you know…UGH. They are his work peeps though so you know whatever. I love my co-workers so I expect that he’s pretty fond of his too.

In conclusion things are pretty good. Did I mention he bought me flowers and pizza?

Golden Rule: Have a guy buy you flowers, it makes you feel all fuzzy inside.

Tips For Guys: Buy her flowers ya dope!

 

Brad’s Back

Hello Ladies,

Remember Brad….. Brad Paisley? Yeah so we are trying again. I know! My life is dizzying. How did this happen you may ask? Me being a weak weak woman and missing him. So you know how when you miss a guy so much, but you just totally suppress it? Or you type the “I miss you text” but not press send? Well I sent it. Then he said he missed me back, which I thought was nice and I was really happy he missed me.

Then he read my last blog and yes he reads my blog. That’s a whole other story. So yes he probably will be reading this. Intruder Alert! Lol.

He then basically replied to my blog/ explained stuff in further detail. At the end he proposed trying again and maybe going slowly. I accepted because I’m a softy and because I honestly think he’s a great guy. I think we have something but I can really only speak for my feelings. As we all know the other party may not feel the same.

As for me, I have toned my feelings way down and is just taking it slow. I don’t want to rush into anything because I’m really scared of getting hurt again. This time I’m just way more relaxed. I realize that this is out of my control and as always in a relationship you only know how you feel.

So that’s what’s happening, I’ll keep you posted on my status lol. Playing it totally aloof and totally by ear lol

Being in a relationship is hard.

Golden Rule: Maybe send the “I miss you” text sometimes, you never know what comes of it.

Tips for guys: If you think a girl is worth a second chance, give it to her.

Go With The Flow (Yes I’m a Hippie Now)

Hello Ladies!

I know the question on all your minds…. When is Game Of Thrones coming back? Well the answer is next year sometime so booooo! But what can we do? Nothing right? Thus we go with the flow. That’s what I’m doing in this new and interesting relationship that I’m in with country music start Brad Paisley. JK, just his nickname.

Nice Segue huh? I know thanks.

Things are going smoothly so far, at least from my perspective. Everything he does is super cute to me, but that’s what being a girl is like for the first  few months. We think everything they do is awesome lol. We see each other often which I like, IDK what he’s feeling though as I can get quite annoying which you all know. Honestly no complaints!

I’m literally just going with the flow because what else am I suppose to do right? I literally have that song “Meant To Be” by Bebe Rexha on replay. If its meant to be it’ll be……I really do like him though and can’t wait to see where it goes. Hoping its going somewhere awesome. I’m totally cool, as cool as a cucumber… in the fridge. Currently still not GF BF and that’s cool. No anxiety at all about that lol.

Remember the 50’s when you’d meet a guy in the park. Walk with him in the park 2 times, have Ice Tea on the porch twice,  he’d meet your parents and that was it. Your married! No you don’t remember it? Yeah me either I was born like 4 decades after but Grandma always did say times were more simple then.  They would call your guy your “gentleman caller” back then. So classy lol. Am I in the wrong decade?

Anyways, Optimism lol. Last time I was this optimistic was the winter Olympics and it paid off. TEAM CANADA for the win!

Golden Rule: Just go with the flow and chillout.

Tips for Guys: Keep being transparent, chicks dig it.

 

 

Am I Crazy?

Hi Ladies! Phew its been a dizzying few weeks for me. I broke up with someone and felt like crap for doing it, but it honestly was for the best. I thought I was going to spend the summer alone and take a dating break as per usual. I literally always say that.

Then I decided, why should I spend the summer alone? or stop trying? Never give up right? Who wants to be single right after a close friend’s wedding. All I can think abut now is trying to find my other half. Trying to find that person everything it easy with, a relationship where we don’t have to try so hard. You Know?

So I signed back up for a few dating sites. Literally within a day or two, I got a rather lengthy but sweet message from a stranger at this point. I was chatting with a few other guys but this particular guy and I hit it off. Lets call him Brad Paisley. And yes its because he loves Brad Paisley lol.

Its literally been really great! Like he makes me laugh, we like all the same things. (except for Brad Paisley but I can see him growing on me lol) We are just like meshing really well, like too well….its honestly scaring me a little bit. Like I have a good feeling about this one but I don’t want to jinx it. Or mess it up. I just want everything to happen the way its suppose to happen.

Our first date was shall I say magical? I won’t bore you with the details but it did include a romantic walk along the boardwalk and Ice-Cream lol. Our connection is palpable, at least for me it is. He says he feels it too, its almost electric. I literally want to see him and like touch him all the time. Are we making you want to throw up yet?

We aren’t like BF & GF or anything yet, but we are exclusive… so that’s a good sign. right?

Idk Am I crazy? Does this happen this quick?

Golden Rule: When something special comes along, you know right away. I thought this was a myth but it’s true.

Tips For Guys: Definitely incorporate a nice walk along the nearest boardwalk, its super romantic.  Trust me, she’ll be eating out of the palm of your hands lol.

Chemistry

Chemistry is a mysterious beast. I super hate the fact that the one person I have the most chemistry with and the most amazing sex with, just isn’t “The Guy”.  Having the perfect chemistry with someone isn’t something you can fake or force trust me  I have tried. I am now aware that the way works is that you can’t have it all. You know that perfect list that you make with the perfect guy. Sorry to tell you honey, but he just isn’t out there. Instead you should just have a list of absolutes. Things you absolutely cannot stand and will not stand for.

My List Of Absolutes

  1. I refuse to be disrespected.
  2. I refuse to be treated like my thoughts or decisions don’t matter.
  3. I refuse to be with someone who doesn’t make me laugh
  4. I refuse to be with someone who thinks Sci-Fi is dumb. ( I just Can’t. this should be number one)
  5. I refuse to be with someone whom I don’t have chemistry with.

Will I find this Unicorn of a man. Nope I don’t think so, but lets see how my search goes. I feel like I have aged twice as fast going through these relationships and learning what I do and don`t want.

Once again I feel like giving up and maybe chilling out for the summer.

Golden Rule: Don`t compromise on your chemistry.

Rules for Guys: Try not to do anything on my absolutes list.

I’m Single Again and It Sucks

Unlike my other horror dating stories or my usual break ups, this one was my call. Though tongue ring really tried and spent a lot of time with me, i just felt something wasn’t quite right. I just thought we didn’t have enough in common and I really didn’t want to waste both our times.

Even though I pulled the plug, I still feel like shit. I literally cried one whole weekend day and am now in a very mopey mood. I just hate the thought of hurting someone. I feel bad that maybe tongue ring thought we had something and I just didn’t. Is this all my fault? Am I the weird one? Am I just not good at relationships? I don’t know. All I know is that everyone around me is magically falling in-love and getting married and I’m not.

Honestly my threshold for worry is at an all time high about being alone forever. When I worry this much I usually just roll over and take a nap. This  time I’m going to to try and remove myself from all the social pressures. If I’m going to be single forever I just am. We don’t know what life has in store and honestly I don’t care. I just don’t want to worry anymore or force anything.

I know that every time one of my friends post a cute couply photo this summer I’m going to feel it. Every time one of my friends get engaged or talk about getting engaged I’m going to feel it. I’m going to feel lonely as shit. I already am, it almost makes me regret my decision but why be with someone when you aren’t 100% feeling it, when they could be spending that time with they’re Mrs. Right.

So what will I do all summer, while everyone is off with they’re other halves? Work on me, catch up on all things TV, learn how to knit, go to the gym? I don’t know, I have a long winding single summer ahead of me. The possibilities are endless lol.

Side note; If Meghan can find her prince at 36, why can’t I? Maybe the lucky number is 36. After that I will be royally screwed. Also I’m no where close to 36 ya’ll so calm down.

Golden Rule: I Suck.

Tips for Guys: I Suck.