Six Months In Our Love Bubble

Hi Ladies! I’ve been Brad’s girl for six whole months. That’s long for me lol. I’m pretty excited about it and I’m quite happy in my relationship which is no small matter. We celebrated by going out for dinner and me being the romantic I am, stole an idea from pinterest. So I know he likes Toblerone Chocolates (because I had some in my room and he ate half the box lol), so I put a bunch in a mason jar with a sweet note and a bow on top. OMG guys, it was so cute! I’m super impressed with myself. (pats self on back) I know he liked it or at least he certainly liked the Toblerones.

I’m happy to say I’ve grown in this relationship into a more secure me. I am happy that nothing has changed since the beginning of the relationship other than the fact that we are slowly morphing into the same person. We definitely have a deeper connection now but its still as fun as the beginning. Are we still in the honeymoon phase? Maybe?!

I also just wanted to add how incredible our sex has been. I think the longer we are together the more we know each other’s desires. We definitely know what we both like and maximize on those things. All I can say is “WOW!”. I find him sexier than ever now and is still pretty enamored with him.

Alright I’ll stop gushing! I just wanted to let ya’ll know we are six months deep lol.

P.S. Super excited for Christmas!

Golden Rule: When you are in love, time flies fast! Enjoy every moment of it.

Tips for Guys: Be the guy that a girl can fall in love with. It’s worth it!

 

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Don`t F*** this Up!

Hi Ladies,

Can I be Frank with you guys? I’m in love, for the first time in a long time and can I just say it feels great. I feel like Mary Poppins floating off with her Umbrella. I feel like Cady Heron when she finally got with Aaron Samuels at the end of mean girls. You get it right? I’m Rose  pre-Jack floating off into the ocean. Anyway, yeah you get it.

So the problem I’m having is seriously trying not to mess this up lol. I want to show him all of me, including my crazy and my anxiety. But is it too much? Well if you’ve been a reader of my blog for the past two years, you know that I really value my relationships and that I’m a sweety. An anxious ovethinking sweety but a sweety non the less.

I’m constantly trying to improve me and work out my kinks on my own. I know I’m not perfect and like all girls, we have our flaws. We have things that will annoy the crap out of our significant others and that’s just the way it is. I am however trying to make myself the best girl I can be. I’m always trying to improve on who I am at work, within my family relationships and even just as a human on earth. But especially in my personal relationship, I try to be the best girlfriend all the time.

I’m dating a very confident and secure person. So I’m always trying to be the same except my anxiety gets in the way lol. I guess I have to figure out that I’m allowed to be vulnerable with him and I need to work on being comfortable with it. I also want him to be comfortable being vulnerable with me.

What can I say? I’m still a work in progress. I still have a lot to learn about love and about really sharing myself with another.

Golden Rule: Don’t F*** up a great relationship and work on being okay with your vulnerability.

Tips For Guys: Don’t F*** up a great relationship!

Girl Angst

Hi Ladies! How goes it? How was Halloween?! I had a pretty good Halloween, I spent it with Brad. We set up his house all spooky and giggled at the disdain on toddlers faces when they figured out they’d have to brave our ghoulish setup in order to receive their candy. Some of the faces were just priceless. We even had an over-enthusiastic toddler yell PUMPKIN!! Like really loud at one of our pumpkins. It was hilarious! We ordered pizza and watched the office, it was a pretty near perfect night.

So we are 5 months into our relationship and like many women at this point, I’m feeling some angst. I call it girl angst or “gangst” for short lol. At this point, Brad knows me inside and out. He knows I’m a whiner, he knows I mildly snore when I sleep (emphasis on MILDLY), he knows I get really cranky when I don’t eat and he knows I’m a cuddle bug. Does he like these things? I hope so! It’s at the point when he pretty much knows all there is to know about me and now I start to wonder if he likes any of it. Am I the only one who thinks about this?

I mean at this point, I know quite a lot about him as well. I know most of his habits and vices. I think they are all cute or at least manageable lol. There hasn’t been anything that I would run to the hills for. But as a girl, I am still enamored by him and is still interested to know more. As I am not a guy….. I don’t know what they are thinking. I mean I could always just ask, but where’s the fun in that? lol. Just kidding, I do try to be very open with Brad about what I’m feeling and he is very keen on reciprocating or help me deal with it.

Most likely its nothing and they are just following the natural ebs and flows of our relationship. But what do I do? I overthink and write blogs about my angst! Most of the time to be completely honest, I don’t know where all this angst comes from. All I know is it sucks and I hate overthinking.

In the end, I have to remember that I can’t control anything having to do with matters of the heart and that everything happens for a reason. Wherever this relationship takes me, I’m thankful.

Please listen to Ariana Grande’s song “Thank You, Next”. It’s pretty darn good and is pretty relatable to like every girl out there.

Also, check out our pumpkin creations below. I carved a goofy pumpkin and Brad carved a poop emoji. LOL PUMPKIN!!

Golden Rule: Try to chill out, keep the angst at bay.

Tips For Guys: Girls have angst, don’t worry we try to keep it to ourselves for the most part.

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Our First Vacation

Hi Ladies!

Its actually been a while and of course I have to get you caught up on what’s happening. Where have I been… you may ask. Why I was away with my BF. We went on a little getaway to Montreal and Ottawa. Those are Canadian cities for all my international readers. They were lovely cities and we had so much fun. We also spent ALOT of money, but that’s for a whole other blog lol.

Our first stop was Montreal where we stayed for 4 days 3 nights. The most amazing thing about that city is the food. Really good food….. and we all know, that’s pretty much all it takes to make a good vacation. We went site seeing and did basic touristy stuff but of course doing all that stuff with Brad was super fun. Sure we got lost sometimes, frustrated and mad but we never really got mad at each other which was great. We just like sarcasm’d each other to death.

After Montreal we hit up Ottawa, Canada’s capital. I was hoping to get a glance of our prime minister but we just got a glance of his house instead or where his house should be. Can we say “Privacy Trees”. We barely saw anything. Anyway in this fair city we explored Parliament Hill and went for long walk along rivers and such. We ate at one of the fanciest restaurants I have ever been to in my  whole middle classed life. I wanted to eat everything on the menu but sadly couldn’t afford it. We spent 3 days in Ottawa and polished off our trip by going to a Cold War Bunker 30 minutes outside of Ottawa. It was very cool but also quite chilling.

Did I mention that we drove the whole way. Yup! Around 5 hours each way. Can you believe we didn’t kill each other?! We still care about each other and I’m happier now than ever that I met him. What a guy! lol. Alright I’m done gushing. Below I’ve attached a picture of our Parliament building, just so you can also experience the beauty and wonder that is Ottawa.

Golden Rule: Take a trip with Bae, you’ll learn things about each other.

Tips For Guys: Have a lot of Vacation sex with your girl. She’ll appreciate it when she gets back to her boring mundane life. lol

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Happiness & Havana Nights

Hi Ladies, I’m just returning from a 5 day long hiatus from  my life. Where did I go? I went to Cuba and it was beautiful. I will leave you with a stunning photo of  a bridge in the town of Mantanzas below. It was hot, the beach was stunning and the drinks were great. The food however, was not spectacular. I was basically on a 5 day long diet because the resort’s assortment of food wasn’t the best. When I traveled to Havana however, I did have the tastiest meal of the trip which consisted of Chicken, rice and beans. So simple but so delicious.

While I was there, my mother and I encountered a girl whom was having domestic violence issues with her BF that she brought on vacation with her. This poor girl literally spent an entire day drinking because of a physical altercation that she had with him the night before. She told anyone that would listen her story of domestic violence and sadness while being thoroughly intoxicated. For a whole night I was on edge and trying to help this girl. I realized I couldn’t help her when I asked her to tell the front desk the situation to see if she could maybe switch rooms or something; to which her response was “I hate him and I love him.” That’s basically when I gave up on her. Long story short she was fine and continued her trip with this guy for a whole 2 days after and even sat behind me on the plane ride back. I felt sick to my stomach to watch her go around with this guy knowing what he  had done to her and was possibly going to do to her again in the near future.

Her whole ordeal just made me realize that women must focus on their own happiness as well as their partners. In relationships, I find that I genuinely strive to make my partner happy because them being fulfilled makes me fulfilled. Nothing is better than seeing the person I care about happy especially Brad because I think he’s pretty awesome. This may be interpreted as being a people pleaser or somewhat annoying but its just the way I am in a relationship. This is fully who I am and i’m being open and honest about it? Should I change this aspect of me? Do nice girls who are devoted and value their partner’s happiness finish last? Give me some feedback below.

Brad did not come on my vacation with me and I missed him terribly while I was away. When I came back we spent a couple days together. Me trying not to think about returning to work and trying to stay in vacation mode as long as possible. Being away has made me want to do somethings differently in my life.

I want to focus on my goals and things that I want to achieve.

I want to form disciplinary habits and regulate my life more. Life is so short and I’m not exactly a kid anymore. There are things that I had hoped to achieve by now, that I still haven’t. I know I can achieve them if I focus on them. Being in Cuba; witnessing the poverty and the strife of the people there has made me appreciate my freedoms a lot more.

Golden Rule: Focus on you sometimes, try to achieve some goals and revel in the feeling of fulfillment.

Tips For Guys: Try to make your girl happy because most likely your happiness is what she is focused on.

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Brad’s Girl

Ladies! Its official, I’m Brad’s girlfriend. How did this happen? Well a long long time ago in a galaxy far far away…. no just kidding. I basically did the ” Sooooooo, its been two months, like what are we?” thing. To which he responded “You wanna be my girlfriend?” lol. I know very anti-climatic but he knew what I was getting at. He’s very intuitive that way. When most guys hear a giant “Soooooo” they usually run for the hills but not Brad. Though he usually responds first with an “Oh God”.

So yeah, what does being his girlfriend mean? It means I worry less about other women buzzing around him. (and trust me there are a few buzzers) Umm other than that nothing has really changed. We still hang out and have fun. Its awesome getting to know him because I think everything he does is either hilarious or adorable. Yes I’m still in my honeymoon phase. I’m sure he thinks I’m annoying by now because lets face it, I am.

We went to a drive in movie which you guys know from “My Top 5 Date Ideas” (Go read that post) is one of my favorites. It was super cool but there were also a lot of mosquitoes. Other than that a magical night under the stars. We made  like a little bed in his trunk. I super wanted to jump his bones but he just really wanted to watch the movie. I mean what kind of guys does that? lol.  A guy that really likes Mission Impossible, that’s who. Also my boyfriend. Yeah I’ll be saying that a lot now.

Side Note: Is Tom Cruise aging slower than the rest of us? Does Scientology have a magical fountain of youth type potion? Or is that potion actually just called money? Just some food for thought.

Anyway back to my boyfriend and I. Okay I’ll stop. Yeah we had a bumpy start but things are going pretty smoothly. Not hoping for anymore curve balls but what is life sans curve balls right?

For the first time ever I find being in a relationship is easy. Am I going to have to change the name of my blog? We’ll seeee.

Side Side Note: Beyonce and Jay Z are calling themselves The Carters now. Just thought I’d share.

Golden Rule: Date an intuitive guy if you can, it makes your “Sooooo” questions way easier.

Tips for Guys: Be Intuitive and take your girl to the drive in duh!

Flowers and Pizza

Hi Ladies! You might be wondering how things are going this summer. Brad and I are having fun! We hang out, we do things, he makes me laugh. He bought me Flowers! Yes I repeat Flowers! First guy to do that since the inception of this blog. He also orders Pizza for the both of us, from the like the best pizza place on earth. We all know how much I love Pizza! I mean if this doesn’t work out, me and that pizza are just gonna elope.

So I just do have to mention that we have had sex. How’s the sex you might ask? Its intense. I find him super attractive + he’s super sweet + the sex is good. I’m screwed. He can pick me up which we tested just this past weekend. He enjoys foreplay! And he’s a very generous lover. I mean, how did I get myself into this?

So Brad is currently being awesome but as we all know, I have to play this cool. Some parts of me are obviously scared shitless that he could just decide not to be with me at any moment. Which sucks! But then I just remember that I’m a pretty cool girl, I’ll be okay if it doesn’t work out. Like I know that we can’t control these things so lets seeeeee.

It also sucks that I’m so transparent and really can’t hide my feelings. Gosh being a girl is ridiculous! I mean he buys me flowers and pizza! Blame me for liking him? Not to mention he knows I’m a dork and doesn’t tease me about it lol.

He also works with all these girls at his job who text him for work advice and life advice. I mean its not that I’m a jealous person but you know…UGH. They are his work peeps though so you know whatever. I love my co-workers so I expect that he’s pretty fond of his too.

In conclusion things are pretty good. Did I mention he bought me flowers and pizza?

Golden Rule: Have a guy buy you flowers, it makes you feel all fuzzy inside.

Tips For Guys: Buy her flowers ya dope!

 

Go With The Flow (Yes I’m a Hippie Now)

Hello Ladies!

I know the question on all your minds…. When is Game Of Thrones coming back? Well the answer is next year sometime so booooo! But what can we do? Nothing right? Thus we go with the flow. That’s what I’m doing in this new and interesting relationship that I’m in with country music start Brad Paisley. JK, just his nickname.

Nice Segue huh? I know thanks.

Things are going smoothly so far, at least from my perspective. Everything he does is super cute to me, but that’s what being a girl is like for the first  few months. We think everything they do is awesome lol. We see each other often which I like, IDK what he’s feeling though as I can get quite annoying which you all know. Honestly no complaints!

I’m literally just going with the flow because what else am I suppose to do right? I literally have that song “Meant To Be” by Bebe Rexha on replay. If its meant to be it’ll be……I really do like him though and can’t wait to see where it goes. Hoping its going somewhere awesome. I’m totally cool, as cool as a cucumber… in the fridge. Currently still not GF BF and that’s cool. No anxiety at all about that lol.

Remember the 50’s when you’d meet a guy in the park. Walk with him in the park 2 times, have Ice Tea on the porch twice,  he’d meet your parents and that was it. Your married! No you don’t remember it? Yeah me either I was born like 4 decades after but Grandma always did say times were more simple then.  They would call your guy your “gentleman caller” back then. So classy lol. Am I in the wrong decade?

Anyways, Optimism lol. Last time I was this optimistic was the winter Olympics and it paid off. TEAM CANADA for the win!

Golden Rule: Just go with the flow and chillout.

Tips for Guys: Keep being transparent, chicks dig it.

 

 

Am I Crazy?

Hi Ladies! Phew its been a dizzying few weeks for me. I broke up with someone and felt like crap for doing it, but it honestly was for the best. I thought I was going to spend the summer alone and take a dating break as per usual. I literally always say that.

Then I decided, why should I spend the summer alone? or stop trying? Never give up right? Who wants to be single right after a close friend’s wedding. All I can think abut now is trying to find my other half. Trying to find that person everything it easy with, a relationship where we don’t have to try so hard. You Know?

So I signed back up for a few dating sites. Literally within a day or two, I got a rather lengthy but sweet message from a stranger at this point. I was chatting with a few other guys but this particular guy and I hit it off. Lets call him Brad Paisley. And yes its because he loves Brad Paisley lol.

Its literally been really great! Like he makes me laugh, we like all the same things. (except for Brad Paisley but I can see him growing on me lol) We are just like meshing really well, like too well….its honestly scaring me a little bit. Like I have a good feeling about this one but I don’t want to jinx it. Or mess it up. I just want everything to happen the way its suppose to happen.

Our first date was shall I say magical? I won’t bore you with the details but it did include a romantic walk along the boardwalk and Ice-Cream lol. Our connection is palpable, at least for me it is. He says he feels it too, its almost electric. I literally want to see him and like touch him all the time. Are we making you want to throw up yet?

We aren’t like BF & GF or anything yet, but we are exclusive… so that’s a good sign. right?

Idk Am I crazy? Does this happen this quick?

Golden Rule: When something special comes along, you know right away. I thought this was a myth but it’s true.

Tips For Guys: Definitely incorporate a nice walk along the nearest boardwalk, its super romantic.  Trust me, she’ll be eating out of the palm of your hands lol.