Hi Ladies! I wish that I made up some of the stuff that I go through, but I honestly don’t. I’m Christian but sometimes I feel like there is some dating god or deity who is punishing me for something I did in a past life. Let’s call her the “Goddess of Shit”… I just feel like only a woman can inflict this much crap on another lol. Like what did I do to deserve this bullshit? I am pretty average looking and am not crazy (I think). That should at least get me a mediocre dude right? Nope.
Remember that guy that dumped me 2 days before Christmas who I said I would never discuss again? (See Sweet Nothings to get caught up). He contacted me via Facebook to let me know that he has read my blog! Dun Dun Duuuun! Like WTF? How did he find it? Can I be mad, as this is a public forum? Literally, I don’t care that he did. I do care however that he now gets to see how shit my dating life has been since him, while he is riding some magical love wave with the girl that was better than me. Man that sucked! He also said he was sorry once again, and I literally shut down. I can’t talk to this dude, I immediately re-live the moment he dumped me whenever I see his picture. I think that’s called Trauma… should I see a therapist? Kidding, I’m 75% over it. Phew, it only took a whole year.
Then on Tinder, I started talking to an older gentleman who I thought maybe would be a nice change from the normal guys I’ve spoken to. However I am just so fearful to try dating again that I am super skeptical about everything. I’ve mentioned this before but whenever I am on Tinder I literally hear that song from Kill Bill that Uma Thurman hears whenever she saw someone who was apart of her death list. (watch Kill Bill… literally the best movie ever made)
I saw hunting cap on Tinder as well, which was a bit amusing. He saw Fifty Shades Darker with me last Valentine’s day. Maybe I should ask him to see this new one with me too? He really liked that movie for obvious reasons. (See And his name was “Hunting Cap” )
Being Single Is Hard when guys you dated are super happy while you ride the singles train.
On the bright side, the really sweet Tinder messages keep pouring in. I mean how can I resist this guy?
Golden Rule: Leave me alone Goddess of Shit!
Tips for Guys: Watch the Fifty Shades movie with your special girl, she really wants you to.
Relationships are tough as we all know via my past blogs. You all of a sudden have to bring another person into your world and all of their problems become your problems on top of your own problems. I like having a person that is “mine” but at the same time I need to admit that I enjoy my freedom. Ask any of my friends and they will let you know that I am super impulsive and do what I want when it comes to guys. I also have to admit that being with Picky Eater was making me somewhat miserable. I literally wrote blogs complaining about him. I realize now though that most women will take being miserable over being alone.
Hey! I get it, because that girl is me. I would rather hold on to a shitty relationship than break up with a guy and be alone. All my friends are in relationships right now while I’m out here singing sad songs like Taylor Swift after a breakup. (Love me some Tay Tay) Its literally like even toddlers are dating now, why can’t I? I have to admit that I think that being a woman in her late 20’s (don’t ask me my age snoopy) and not being in a committed relationship or has never been in one is weird. My mom literally was living with my dad when she was 20 (with children). Times have changed.
My mother who has seen all there is to see and done all there is to do, looks at me and tells me not to rush it. I think she is crazy and should be super disappointed, but she sees me go through these awful relationships and it saddens her. Needless to say she is completely on board with my guy break.
I do feel like I have a disability though, not being able to keep a man as they say. I thought I was supposed to be myself in a relationship but maybe I need to be something else. I really don’t know at this point. Guys have a clear cardboard cutout of what they want, but I literally have no idea.
In conclusion I am a hot mess which I believe I have mentioned several times, it may be the one consistent theme throughout all this. Trying to work on myself and love me more. I want an awesome relationship but I’m having trouble passing the honeymoon stage. Maybe I need to be stranded on a desert island with a handsome stranger or stranded on a mountain top with Idris Elba. That’s how people fall in love… when they have no choice. (Please go see “The Mountain Between Us” if you have time. Very good film. I have two words for you; Idris and Elba.)
Golden Rule: Lets all figure out what we actually want.
Tips For Guys: Teach me your decisiveness because I literally don’t know what I want anymore.
Hi Ladies, so things have been rough on me. My friends say I take these break ups too hard but that’s because I go into every relationship thinking this could be the one. Ummm so far it hasn’t. I find it super hard to believe that after speaking to me every day for 2 months someone can drop you like a hot potato (never liked that game anyway). So I need to forget about him and enjoy my “Guy Break”. As all of my friends in relationships complain about the things that their men do. I have nothing to complain about…. Other than the fact that I will spend eternity alone, but no big deal.
I have said it before but it’s hard for me to let go of stuff but this one I have to throw into the ocean just like Old Rose did with the Giant diamond at the end of Titanic. I mean if I was to message him, what would I even say?
I miss you so much. Please be with me?
I hate you and hope that you get really bad indigestion for 5 years.
Are you seeing someone else because that’s not fair.
Yeah, so all of those are pathetic so I will continue with my silence. I find that after a breakup, girls are usually sad and guys just move right along. Then like 3 months down the line is when they feel any sort of regret. By then most girls have moved on. I sincerely hope that’s the case for Picky Eater and I. Man, I gotta stop writing about this guy but I am literally scared to death to date anyone else.
I think about him so much and all the fun things we did. So many things remind me of him and yeah I hate him I think.
P.S. I saw Booty Call again. It’s still not a huge deal though.
Golden Rule: Never text a dude after a breakup, it comes off as pathetic…. I think.
I am trying to change my outlook on life because if you haven’t been reading, it’s kind of a train wreck. (Read “And So It Ends” to get caught up) I have decided to take a dating break. Surprise, Surprise right? I am going to focus on me. This doesn’t mean that things are going to get boring around here though. After my breakup, I gave booty call a call again. Yes I know, I’m weak. It was great sex as usual but I don’t think it’s going to be a thing. I am literally over all guys past and present. I have decided to spend the holidays watching and adding every corny Christmas movie ever made to my Netflix queue.
( Watch “How Sarah Got Her Wings” when you get a chance)
I have tried to re-download Tinder but it literally gives me anxiety. So I have deleted it. I don’t have Bumble anymore either. I am literally not on any dating sites and am finally just waiting to meet someone in real life. I know… weird right?
I have of course have been creeping Picky Eater because I am not completely over it. I have noticed that a new girl started following him on Instagram and he followed her back. So naturally I assume he is seeing someone else. I also check his time stamps on WhatsApp like every 5 hours. I have been getting better as the WhatsApp checking has slowed down to once a week.
Today I deleted all his pics from my phone and his phone number is just a number no name. These are my lame steps to getting over a break up. Don’t follow them though, do what normal girls do and just go cold turkey. I find that it’s super hard for me to let go of things so I need to work on that.
I am also trying really hard not to go all Doctor Foster on Picky Eater. (If you haven’t seen Doctor Foster on Netflix you are tripping. It’s basically the new gone girl). See how much Netflix I watch? A quite unhealthy amount.
Golden Rule: Slowly but surely delete the Dumpee from your life and all will be well.
Tips for Guys: Watch Doctor Foster and see what happens when women get angry. JK… but not really.
Girl tries Tinder for the first time. Guy talks to girl on Tinder first. Unsuspecting girl thinks, “ah, this is a nice guy”. Girl tells guy that she does not do hookups. Guy agrees and exclaims that he doesn’t either. Girl dates guy, girl thinks its going great. Girl overlooks all of guys flaws (and believe me there were a lot). Girl sleeps with guy because after a month of dating she somewhat thought it was a safe bet. Guy convinced girl that he cared based on his behavior. Guy started acting weird and texting got sporadic. Girl started feeling pushed away. Guy then gave girl an ultimatum because his life was just getting too busy to keep her in it (I’ve heard this one before). Girl realized that if a guy gives an ultimatum its usually a way to get out of a relationship. Girl doesn’t want to be with a guy who doesn’t want to be with her. Girl agrees to part ways.
Girl is single again. Woohooo, just in time for the holidays. Christmas dinner is going to be really fun.
Golden Rule: Don’t start dating a guy within 6-12 months of Christmas, so like never.
Why am I so apprehensive about love? I keep thinking the worse thing is going to happen or that I will never find love. I keep thinking that I don’t want to get hurt thus I should put up a wall hiding my real feelings. But shouldn’t love be a free fall? Do we free fall if we don’t allow ourselves to?
I am currently in Maine with my sister and her brilliant marriage. I mean everything might not be perfect but her husband loves her. So of course I immediately go to that place where I am wondering if I will ever find love.
Also not necessarily complaining but it’s halloween party weekend and I didn’t really get to go anywhere because I was in Maine. Like even Picky Eater went to a party and I had to just watch him go off in a cute costume. No doubt he will be eyed by many female party goers, but you know cool cool cool cool cool.
The point of this post was that I need to let myself free fall into love and not be afraid to feel what I am feeling. Also I seriously adore Picky Eater, it like hurts how much. Anyway no golden rule or tips for guys this week just a quick check in. Don’t be afraid to to Free Fall.
Thanksgiving is upon us. Yes it is Canadian Thanksgiving friends. Yes I’m Canadian lol. I thought this year would be another year of “why aren’t you married? fest 2017”. This year however was reasonably tame. My brother made one single joke of which the punchline was that people who are single are losers, so that was fun. Another huge deal was that I lost for the very first time at Taboo. I know, ridiculous! I just had a bad team setup and there was some drinking and cheating but thats another story for another time.
So its long weekend and I totally want to hang out and have fun with friends. What hinders that you may ask? When all your friends are in relationships and you being the single loser can’t really find anyone to hang out with. These are the instances when you can’t be mad at your friends but cant help feeling like the single loser in the group. This is probably one of the hardest things about being single; Being Single through the Holidays.
I sat on my bed and tried to find someone to hang out with but there was absolutely no one. You can have tons of friends and family and still feel completely alone. These are the times when it hits you; how you don’t have anyone to share your life with, while everyone else is off sharing theirs. Picky Eater is off being a father; which is great and I am not even allowed to complain because of that fact. I get like two text messages a day but everyone around me says that it’s okay because he has children. Not sure how you get to know someone with two text messages a day. Not sure why he went on Tinder and was apparently trying to find a relationship if he absolutely has no time for it. Not sure why Christopher Robin from Winnie the Pooh isn’t labelled a crazy kid for having full blown conversations with inanimate stuffed animals. Lots of unanswered questions out there, we just have to keep pondering them.
I even texted Booty Call, and yes I still see him from time to time because I am single and allowed to do that. I am not in any one defined relationship.
Thus my conundrum of feeling lonely.
Golden Rule: Have different circles of friends because once they are busy with their BFs, that’s when you really feel single.
Tips For Guys: Be cool and hang out with me every time I ask jeez. lol