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We Are Not Perfect

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Hi Ladies,

I just wanted to let you guys know that no relationship is perfect. Brad and I have been having this on-going issue, involving another girl outside of our relationship. Now when I met Brad he came encompassed with all these young, female (some single, some not) friends. Like most girls who start a new relationship I was not comfortable.

Brad has made profound improvements in this regard. He really tries to stay clear of anything that makes me uncomfortable or any interactions that he knows will make me feel not great. However, lol. One still remains.

There is a particular friend whom we have had controversies with concerning some interactions. Stuff that any girl would feel weird about or not appreciate. The problem is that with this particular human, Brad doesn’t really agree that some things were inappropriate.

When he is with this particular individual something else happens. His phone is a deadzone lol. So say I’m chatting away, just telling him usual stuff, expecting a response. Maybe not right away but like within a reasonable time. I’ll either get no response or like weird half answers. So Ofcourse I didn’t feel great about that. And I would notice it most with this particular girl. Like I would just feel the distance.

I have discussed this with Brad and since then have seen major improvements. He has had to actively try to stay attentive when this person is around. Which makes me feel eeeeeeeek. He says it’s because they don’t get to see each other that much so when they do, they have lots to say. I also basically just need to accept this as I do get quite upset every time it happens. Shouldn’t I be use to this by now?

In the most recent incident she asked Brad something that had somewhat to do with me. And like it just feels like my feelings were not considered you know. It just felt like this thing was only about her. And it sucked. After the fact Brad and I discussed but there is like no going back on this thing. Also I would think if it was between me being upset and her being upset. Mine would be more crucial or important but I felt like that wasn’t the case.

This is the one thing that hasn’t really changed much in almost two years. There is no shaking her. And I feel terrible for being that girlfriend that steps in the way of friendships. My fear is that there may be something more than friendship happening there but Brad vehemently disagrees. I feel like freakin Darth Vader every time I bring it up.

Because Ofcourse she’s like a happy little fairy girl. Who doesn’t like that right? While I’m an overthinking, intellectual adult who still allows a fairy girl to make me feel like shit.

Naturally in these scenarios where someone else has your boyfriends attention, you start to over analyze and compare. And comparison is never good. I compact every interaction they have ever had into a little box. And every time she’s brought up, I open this little box and all the uncomfortable feelings seep out. Kinda like in that movie the ring where like that dead girls hair just like comes out of no where and stifles you. Super similar to that.

Brad Ofcourse hates that I do this. Because he literally doesn’t remember anything that has happened with this person past last Tuesday. Is that like a guy thing?

So anyway, this is my dilemma. This problem is not going anywhere as he has to see this person on a semi-regular basis. Some aspects of this situation does make me feel insecure. The usual questions. Am I not interesting enough? Not pretty enough? Not fairy like enough?

Because intrinsically that’s what happens. I don’t feel like enough. I should be so enough that no other human can do this. As no other human does this to me in regards to Brad. But that’s just it. Brad and I are different and see things differently.

So then I’ll think like maybe I’m just being too sensitive or maybe a bit over critical. But then I bring up specific scenarios with my friends and even my MOM. And my mom would say, “hmmmmm something doesn’t seem right with this girl.”

So that’s the dilemma. I have no advice this week but I sure need some.

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Summer Summer Summer Time.

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Hi Ladies!

I know I haven’t been writing much lately and that’s not good! Life is definitely getting in the way of my juicy relationship stories.

What’s been going on with Brad and I, you ask? He has been getting to know the family. He has been to several family events and he is now very familiar with members of my clan. They like him too but is he getting overwhelmed? Yes. Can he remember everyone’s names? Nope, but that’s natural. To be honest he’s only met less than a quarter of my family. I’m easing him in slowly. (That’s what she said)

We officially had a talk with my mom about buying a house together. She was pretty chill about the talk but I can tell she is melting inside like butter in a microwave. She is scared for her baby girl to leave her, live with a man and for me to be on my own. She’s also scared to be on her own. Who can blame her? These are all completely rational fears.

I’ll keep you posted on how and when buying a house with Brad goes. Who knew we would get here? Time sure flies when you are dating a committed, loving man. Remember in my earlier blogs when I thought this wouldn’t happen? Yeah me too. He’s not perfect but I love his imperfections. I’ll talk about those in another post. Lol.

Ladies, there is Hope yet.

Being single is still hard I’m sure, but I’m not single anymore. I don’t wanna jinx it though.

Golden Rule: If you want to buy a house with your lover, try to not already buy one with your parent.

Tips for guys: Commitment is everything. Girls love a guy who can commit.

Love Plant

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Hi Ladies!

So Valentine’s Day just passed and I actually had a valentine for once! We went for dinner and exchanged gifts. And there were candles involved. All very romantic and certainly made me feel loved.

I was gifted a love plant. A plant that I’m tasked with keeping alive as it’s a representation of our love. No pressure or anything. I’ll have to do my very best, it might be hard as I don’t have a green thumb or a green anything.

I had a wonderful night with my babe but sometimes I wonder…. how do we measure love? Remember that song by Michael Bolton? “When a man loves a woman” Que wind machine. Like I grew up thinking love was exactly like Michael Bolton said. When a man loves you, he’ll do anything for you. He’ll respect you, he’ll try to never hurt you. When a woman loves a man it’s exactly the same. She respects him and tries to never hurt him.

I hope love never changes. I want to feel like Michael Bolton is following me and Brad around everywhere we go. I want that old school love. I want love that is true and committed.

No golden rules tonight or tips. Just love each other. Let’s not let love change or mutate. Let’s keep it simple.

Six Months In Our Love Bubble

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Hi Ladies! I’ve been Brad’s girl for six whole months. That’s long for me lol. I’m pretty excited about it and I’m quite happy in my relationship which is no small matter. We celebrated by going out for dinner and me being the romantic I am, stole an idea from pinterest. So I know he likes Toblerone Chocolates (because I had some in my room and he ate half the box lol), so I put a bunch in a mason jar with a sweet note and a bow on top. OMG guys, it was so cute! I’m super impressed with myself. (pats self on back) I know he liked it or at least he certainly liked the Toblerones.

I’m happy to say I’ve grown in this relationship into a more secure me. I am happy that nothing has changed since the beginning of the relationship other than the fact that we are slowly morphing into the same person. We definitely have a deeper connection now but its still as fun as the beginning. Are we still in the honeymoon phase? Maybe?!

I also just wanted to add how incredible our sex has been. I think the longer we are together the more we know each other’s desires. We definitely know what we both like and maximize on those things. All I can say is “WOW!”. I find him sexier than ever now and is still pretty enamored with him.

Alright I’ll stop gushing! I just wanted to let ya’ll know we are six months deep lol.

P.S. Super excited for Christmas!

Golden Rule: When you are in love, time flies fast! Enjoy every moment of it.

Tips for Guys: Be the guy that a girl can fall in love with. It’s worth it!

 

Don`t F*** this Up!

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Hi Ladies,

Can I be Frank with you guys? I’m in love, for the first time in a long time and can I just say it feels great. I feel like Mary Poppins floating off with her Umbrella. I feel like Cady Heron when she finally got with Aaron Samuels at the end of mean girls. You get it right? I’m Rose  pre-Jack floating off into the ocean. Anyway, yeah you get it.

So the problem I’m having is seriously trying not to mess this up lol. I want to show him all of me, including my crazy and my anxiety. But is it too much? Well if you’ve been a reader of my blog for the past two years, you know that I really value my relationships and that I’m a sweety. An anxious ovethinking sweety but a sweety non the less.

I’m constantly trying to improve me and work out my kinks on my own. I know I’m not perfect and like all girls, we have our flaws. We have things that will annoy the crap out of our significant others and that’s just the way it is. I am however trying to make myself the best girl I can be. I’m always trying to improve on who I am at work, within my family relationships and even just as a human on earth. But especially in my personal relationship, I try to be the best girlfriend all the time.

I’m dating a very confident and secure person. So I’m always trying to be the same except my anxiety gets in the way lol. I guess I have to figure out that I’m allowed to be vulnerable with him and I need to work on being comfortable with it. I also want him to be comfortable being vulnerable with me.

What can I say? I’m still a work in progress. I still have a lot to learn about love and about really sharing myself with another.

Golden Rule: Don’t F*** up a great relationship and work on being okay with your vulnerability.

Tips For Guys: Don’t F*** up a great relationship!

Girl Angst

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Hi Ladies! How goes it? How was Halloween?! I had a pretty good Halloween, I spent it with Brad. We set up his house all spooky and giggled at the disdain on toddlers faces when they figured out they’d have to brave our ghoulish setup in order to receive their candy. Some of the faces were just priceless. We even had an over-enthusiastic toddler yell PUMPKIN!! Like really loud at one of our pumpkins. It was hilarious! We ordered pizza and watched the office, it was a pretty near perfect night.

So we are 5 months into our relationship and like many women at this point, I’m feeling some angst. I call it girl angst or “gangst” for short lol. At this point, Brad knows me inside and out. He knows I’m a whiner, he knows I mildly snore when I sleep (emphasis on MILDLY), he knows I get really cranky when I don’t eat and he knows I’m a cuddle bug. Does he like these things? I hope so! It’s at the point when he pretty much knows all there is to know about me and now I start to wonder if he likes any of it. Am I the only one who thinks about this?

I mean at this point, I know quite a lot about him as well. I know most of his habits and vices. I think they are all cute or at least manageable lol. There hasn’t been anything that I would run to the hills for. But as a girl, I am still enamored by him and is still interested to know more. As I am not a guy….. I don’t know what they are thinking. I mean I could always just ask, but where’s the fun in that? lol. Just kidding, I do try to be very open with Brad about what I’m feeling and he is very keen on reciprocating or help me deal with it.

Most likely its nothing and they are just following the natural ebs and flows of our relationship. But what do I do? I overthink and write blogs about my angst! Most of the time to be completely honest, I don’t know where all this angst comes from. All I know is it sucks and I hate overthinking.

In the end, I have to remember that I can’t control anything having to do with matters of the heart and that everything happens for a reason. Wherever this relationship takes me, I’m thankful.

Please listen to Ariana Grande’s song “Thank You, Next”. It’s pretty darn good and is pretty relatable to like every girl out there.

Also, check out our pumpkin creations below. I carved a goofy pumpkin and Brad carved a poop emoji. LOL PUMPKIN!!

Golden Rule: Try to chill out, keep the angst at bay.

Tips For Guys: Girls have angst, don’t worry we try to keep it to ourselves for the most part.

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Hardest Lessons Learned

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Hi Ladies, I’m just going to go on a little “why being an adult is hard” rant. Honestly the hardest lessons learned is just how much people suck…. am I right?

I don’t even think I hold people to that high of a standard. I give everyone their space, I am not a very constrictive person. Plans change and I’m cool. You want to cancel plans once or twice and I’m still cool. You don’t talk to me for 2 weeks, no big deal. We can still be Dion and Cher after those things occur. (Clueless Reference, if you haven’t seen that movie, GO watch it!)

But the minute a person’s actions show that they blatantly don’t give a shit about me as a person, that’s when I feel let down. This is especially hard when it’s a person that you’d pride yourself on going out of your way to support and help. Am I the only adult who still expects to have friends in their late 20’s? I just might be.  Let me know how your friendships are going below.

Being an Adult is hard because people forget that after doing a shitty thing to one person or persons, they can still say sorry.

In other news, Brad and I are doing great! We had our first Halloween Party outing and was the cutest Clarke Kent and Lois Lane for miles around. Atleast I thought soooo!

Golden Rule: Try to treat your friends a little better, especially now that you are a busy adult. Showing that you can still make time for them is important.

Tips For Guys:  Girls like couples costumes, so please oblige us! lol.

 

 

 

 

Happiness & Havana Nights

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Hi Ladies, I’m just returning from a 5 day long hiatus from  my life. Where did I go? I went to Cuba and it was beautiful. I will leave you with a stunning photo of  a bridge in the town of Mantanzas below. It was hot, the beach was stunning and the drinks were great. The food however, was not spectacular. I was basically on a 5 day long diet because the resort’s assortment of food wasn’t the best. When I traveled to Havana however, I did have the tastiest meal of the trip which consisted of Chicken, rice and beans. So simple but so delicious.

While I was there, my mother and I encountered a girl whom was having domestic violence issues with her BF that she brought on vacation with her. This poor girl literally spent an entire day drinking because of a physical altercation that she had with him the night before. She told anyone that would listen her story of domestic violence and sadness while being thoroughly intoxicated. For a whole night I was on edge and trying to help this girl. I realized I couldn’t help her when I asked her to tell the front desk the situation to see if she could maybe switch rooms or something; to which her response was “I hate him and I love him.” That’s basically when I gave up on her. Long story short she was fine and continued her trip with this guy for a whole 2 days after and even sat behind me on the plane ride back. I felt sick to my stomach to watch her go around with this guy knowing what he  had done to her and was possibly going to do to her again in the near future.

Her whole ordeal just made me realize that women must focus on their own happiness as well as their partners. In relationships, I find that I genuinely strive to make my partner happy because them being fulfilled makes me fulfilled. Nothing is better than seeing the person I care about happy especially Brad because I think he’s pretty awesome. This may be interpreted as being a people pleaser or somewhat annoying but its just the way I am in a relationship. This is fully who I am and i’m being open and honest about it? Should I change this aspect of me? Do nice girls who are devoted and value their partner’s happiness finish last? Give me some feedback below.

Brad did not come on my vacation with me and I missed him terribly while I was away. When I came back we spent a couple days together. Me trying not to think about returning to work and trying to stay in vacation mode as long as possible. Being away has made me want to do somethings differently in my life.

I want to focus on my goals and things that I want to achieve.

I want to form disciplinary habits and regulate my life more. Life is so short and I’m not exactly a kid anymore. There are things that I had hoped to achieve by now, that I still haven’t. I know I can achieve them if I focus on them. Being in Cuba; witnessing the poverty and the strife of the people there has made me appreciate my freedoms a lot more.

Golden Rule: Focus on you sometimes, try to achieve some goals and revel in the feeling of fulfillment.

Tips For Guys: Try to make your girl happy because most likely your happiness is what she is focused on.

Mantanzas

Brad’s Girl

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Ladies! Its official, I’m Brad’s girlfriend. How did this happen? Well a long long time ago in a galaxy far far away…. no just kidding. I basically did the ” Sooooooo, its been two months, like what are we?” thing. To which he responded “You wanna be my girlfriend?” lol. I know very anti-climatic but he knew what I was getting at. He’s very intuitive that way. When most guys hear a giant “Soooooo” they usually run for the hills but not Brad. Though he usually responds first with an “Oh God”.

So yeah, what does being his girlfriend mean? It means I worry less about other women buzzing around him. (and trust me there are a few buzzers) Umm other than that nothing has really changed. We still hang out and have fun. Its awesome getting to know him because I think everything he does is either hilarious or adorable. Yes I’m still in my honeymoon phase. I’m sure he thinks I’m annoying by now because lets face it, I am.

We went to a drive in movie which you guys know from “My Top 5 Date Ideas” (Go read that post) is one of my favorites. It was super cool but there were also a lot of mosquitoes. Other than that a magical night under the stars. We made  like a little bed in his trunk. I super wanted to jump his bones but he just really wanted to watch the movie. I mean what kind of guys does that? lol.  A guy that really likes Mission Impossible, that’s who. Also my boyfriend. Yeah I’ll be saying that a lot now.

Side Note: Is Tom Cruise aging slower than the rest of us? Does Scientology have a magical fountain of youth type potion? Or is that potion actually just called money? Just some food for thought.

Anyway back to my boyfriend and I. Okay I’ll stop. Yeah we had a bumpy start but things are going pretty smoothly. Not hoping for anymore curve balls but what is life sans curve balls right?

For the first time ever I find being in a relationship is easy. Am I going to have to change the name of my blog? We’ll seeee.

Side Side Note: Beyonce and Jay Z are calling themselves The Carters now. Just thought I’d share.

Golden Rule: Date an intuitive guy if you can, it makes your “Sooooo” questions way easier.

Tips for Guys: Be Intuitive and take your girl to the drive in duh!

Whimsical Cottage Getaway

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Hello Ladies!

What have I been up to you may ask? I’m just chillen and working, having fun with cutie pie Brad. So Brad Paisley’s family owns a cottage, no shocker there. He is Brad Paisley after all. This past weekend he thought it would be a good idea for us to take a little trip. It’s only two hours away but it’s good to know that I can be in a car with him for two hours. We literally just listened to music and talked and laughed. Not a bad travelling partner.

His cottage was beautiful and I had a bunch of new experiences. I rode an ATV. Not to worry Brad was at the helm. I just prayed for my life and held on tight. I drove a boat for the first time as well. I quickly realized how fun cottage life is and is hastily looking into my own cottage lol. You know once this blog takes off and I start making tons of money lol. For now my cottage dream is on hold.

Anyway, I thought it was super sweet of him to invite me up there and boy did I sure have fun. I was also ingesting at a steady pace some very delicious wine. That definitely helped me to relax and unwind. It’s was a whimsical trip.

Golden Rule: If your guy ever invites you on a cottage getaway, please do it!

Tips for Guys: Buy a cottage.